Relationship Restoration
(757) 965-5450
by: Virginia Beach Christian Counseling
700 Baker Road, Suite 114 Virginia Beach, VA 23462
OUR SERVICES:
For Him... For Her...
Individual Counseling & Coaching for Men
Confessing that you have a problem with porn is not easy. You will fear judgment, embarrassment, and have to lower your learned male image defenses. however, as any of out clients will tell you, once you establish that you want to kick this habit and begin the process in earnest, you will be glad you did. You know you can't do this alone, because that has never worked before. If it had, you would not be searching out this website, or read the content.
We will carefully explain how our program works, and what you will discover, as well as what we will ask you to do. The basic early recover phase is designed to take about 12 weeks. During that time, you will work on learning or strengthening some skills:
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Victim Empathy to understand and respond to the hurt you have caused to your spouse, to self, and to your relationship.
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Confrontation Tolerance to stop your defensiveness, accept your wife's need to confront you, and accept help.
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How to master the triggers you have developed that drive your addiction.
You will immediate begin to rewire your brain so that porn loses it’s hold on you. The first 12 weeks is the tough part. However, our process is very powerful, and you will begin to see renewed hope almost immediately.
Individual Support & Counseling for Women
As a Betrayed Spouse, you have many conflicted feelings and thoughts. Counseling will help you deal with:
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The pain of betrayal causes you to place the future of your relationship on hold while you wait for proof he has changed.
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Resisting his blame-shifting messages and how to keep the impacts of his addiction focused on his ownership of the problem.
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Accepting it"s not about how you look, performance, or age. It's him.
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Use healthy confrontation to safeguard your relationship, without trigger his tendency to relapse.
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Understand his cycle and support his recovery without giving up your own emotional safety, dignity, or rights in your marriage.
Women's Support Group
Cheating in a marriage is no longer limited to affairs, late night rendezvous, or sleazy motels. It can now happen right in your own home-while you sleep! The rising phenomenon of internet pornography has begun to destroy marriages and relationships across the US.
When you discover your mate is secretly using porn, it can be devastating. The first instinct is anger, then self-doubt, then grief and fear.
Two primary factors are effected by this discovery, Trust and Love Throughout the process of dealing with this very painful discovery, you will experience mixed feelings. At times your feelings of love will battle with contempt. Your mind is trying to sort out the conflict between your desire to see him through the filter of love, and the reality of his actions, excuses, and attitudes. Trust is likewise attacked as fear of future lies, relapse, and doubt surge into your thoughts.
Sorting these feelings out, and finding a way forward, is actually the process of Grief. Our women's group is designed to help you negotiate your feelings, grief, and find your own answers to re-balance your life.
The Women's Support group is available free of cost to the spouse or partner of any man currently doing recovery work with us. If your partner is not a current client, the cost is $10 with a Registration fee of $50. The registration fee includes a pre-group session with the group facilitator to prepare you for group.
To sign up for group, or to ask questions, please contact Dr. Chuck at Support@VBCC.email.
Men's Support Group
This is an “open group” where new members can join at anytime, based on space. However, to attend group, you must be screened for appropriateness to the group. Most members are current clients in our Internet Addiction Coaching and Recovery Skills Program. This group if for men who are trapped in habitual porn use. If you are a spouse of a porn addicted man, and would like to join a group for spouse support, please email the office at Support@vbcc.email and let us know. We also have individual sessions for wives, spouses, and partners so that you can get the help you need while he is doing his early recovery work.
To sign up for group, please contact Dr. Chuck directly. You can email him at Support@VBCC.email. Due to limitations on size, we will expect you to register and place your payment method on file prior to the commencement of group. Material costs are included in the $10 per session fee. Registration fee: $50 which includes first week, book & materials. Registration fee is waived for clients who are also in individual counseling sessions with Dr. Chuck.